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Adult Children of High-Conflict Parents

Find Freedom from Your Past, Heal the Pain of Toxic Relational Trauma, & Cultivate Lasting Self-Love

Adult Children of High-Conflict Parents offers powerful, evidence-based tools to help readers identify, navigate, and recover from dysfunctional family dynamics and emotionally immature parents. This compassionate, evidence-based guide helps adult children of high-conflict parents–including those with addiction, narcissistic, or dark-triad traits—recognize toxic family dynamics and heal their invisible wounds. If you grew up in an emotionally invalidating, verbally abusive, or drama-filled home, you may carry lasting relational trauma into adulthood. Narcissistic abuse, childhood, and adult emotional neglect, such as dealing with alcoholic parents and family, carry wounds that last well into adulthood. By recognizing and naming the problem, you can heal now.

Drawing on CBT, DBT, EMDR, and mindfulness, this guide offers practical tools to identify dysfunctional patterns, set healthy boundaries, manage intense emotions, and break cycles of emotional abuse. By creating boundaries and finding what kind of relationship is right for you (including understanding rules of estrangement) you can develop the ultimate self-respect and self-love for yourself and others. By naming the problem and understanding its impact, you can rebuild self-worth, cultivate self-compassion, and create healthier relationships—moving toward a life of stability, meaning, and well-being.

Start your healing journey and find the ultimate self-respect and self-love–Order your copy today!

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What People Are Saying

“If you’ve felt the heartbreak of being stuck in a painful relationship with a parent and wondered how to begin healing, this book is essential. Drawing on years of experience counseling adults through complex family dynamics, Dr. Hutchinson compassionately guides you through the confusion, grief, and longing that so many carry. Her insights and exercises light a path toward emotional clarity and the freedom to heal on your own terms.”

Amber Pope, PhD, LPC, LMHC, assistant professor of counselor education; and relationship, marriage, and family counseling area lead at William and Mary School of Education

“In this timely, interactive book, Dr. Hutchinson uses her extensive clinical experience to gently guide readers in examining relational trauma caused by high-conflict parents. Adult survivors will feel seen and understood as they reflect on the past and learn strategies to increase awareness, find hope, and experience healing. This must-read book is a balm for the soul and a road map for a new path with yourself and those you love.”

Jennifer Foster, PhD, associate professor of counselor education at Western Michigan University, and licensed professional counselor

“Dr. Hutchinson offers a long-awaited book for those who suffer from conflicting relationships with their parents and family. Her jargon-free language with clear examples and assertive counseling will certainly make this book for both clients and practitioners a landmark in the counseling literature. This is an absolute must-read for therapists, patients, and anyone affected by family relational trauma.”

Luis Gomez, PhD, practitioner-scholar and consultant based in Washington, DC; with international experience in training counselors, therapists, and people with disabilities

“Dr. Hutchinson’s groundbreaking book illuminates an often-unrecognized area of pain and trauma: living with a high-conflict parent. She helps readers find a healthy way of dealing with an unhealthy relationship. Using exercises and client stories, she gives sage advice on self-care based on clinical experience. Her approach relies on proven techniques from narrative therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) while offering a spiritual solution aimed at fostering post-traumatic growth.”

Mark E. Young, PhD, professor emeritus of counselor education at University of Central Florida (UCF); cofounder of the UCF Marriage and Family Research Center; and author of five books, including the award-winning Learning the Art of Helping, Counseling Today, and Counseling and Therapy for Couples

“As a therapist who works with survivors of traumatic and abusive families, as well as a survivor myself, I am excited to see Dr. Tracy’s book enter the healing community. Those of us who lived with high-conflict parents often feel so isolated and misunderstood, but this book provides space and support for this unique area of trauma. Healing from dysfunctional and abusive behaviors we were exposed to can feel scary without the right support. This book is so needed!”

Kaytlyn Gillis, LCSW, psychotherapist; and author of four books, including Healing from Parental Abandonment and Neglect and Breaking the Cycle

“Dr.  Hutchinson has written the go-to guide for individuals with high-conflict parents. Readers can see themselves in her comforting words and insights, exploring what it feels like to have high-conflict parents, how it affects their mental health, and what they can do to heal. Filled with practical exercises and journaling prompts, this book is a powerful tool for processing and navigating high-conflict relationships.”

Betsy Holmberg, PhD, author of Unkind Mind

“Have you struggled with guilt, shame, and unhealthy relationships since childhood? Dr. Hutchinson’s crucial book helps you gain insight into the subtle yet damaging signs of being raised by a high-conflict parent. The elaboration of ‘rupture and repair’ is excellent, and as a psychotherapist with decades of experience, I am using it to help my clients heal from such childhood emotional traumas. This should be required reading for all psychotherapists.”

Tamara J. Green, LCSW, love and relationship expert

“Dr. Hutchinson accurately captures the emotional complexity of experience of those who have grown up with a high-conflict parent. She pinpoints how feeling disloyal impacts a person’s ability to speak up about what has happened to them in a way that gives the reader a visceral sense of release. There is nothing more powerful than having someone see and understand the inner world you’ve kept hidden for so long.”

—Lauren Dennelly, PhD, LCSW, clinician, and author of the forthcoming Why You Never Got to Be a Kid

“Adult Children of High-Conflict Parents is an invaluable resource for anyone seeking to understand their past and move forward from relational trauma! Dr. Tracy has created a compassionate and relatable guide that captures the complexity of high-conflict family dynamics and provides practical tools for healing, setting boundaries, and processing difficult emotions. This book will help adult children feel supported and empowered to change their lives.”

—Sharon Martin, LCSW, psychotherapist, and author of Cutting Ties with Your Parents and The Better Boundaries Workbook

“For anyone carrying the weight of a difficult, painful childhood, this book is a lifeline. Dr. Hutchinson offers not only a compassionate understanding of those lingering feelings of confusion, anger, and hurt, but also a clear, empowering path forward. With a thorough explanation of high-conflict parents, practical exercises, and transformative guidance, this book goes beyond healing—it’s a road map to growth and self-actualization.”

—Monica Leppma, PhD, LMHC, faculty and clinical supervisor at City University of Seattle